child development, Child's Education, Relationships

4 Effective ways to Get Your Kids to Stop Whining

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It’s irritating, it’s frustrating and it gets on your last nerve. Though it’s obnoxious and unacceptable, it’s actually effective for your child to get your attention. It’s whining. But, like other bad habits, you can nip it in the bud early with a few simple strategies to teach your child there are other appropriate, effective forms of communicating with you.

  1.  First, try limiting the situations that trigger it. Avoid extra errands when the kids are hungry.  Don’t let them get involved in a frustrating game or project prior to bedtime. Pay attention when your child is talking, as sometimes whining is a reaction when a child feels you aren’t giving them your full attention. Praise them for not whining and talking in a normal and understandable voice that allows you to fully understand what they are saying to you.
  2.  When the whining begins, don’t overreact. Keep your response simple, calm and neutral.  Ask your child to repeat the request in a normal tone. When giving in seems inevitable, don’t delay. If you must finish the grocery shopping so you can put dinner on the table, for instance, and your child starts whining for a snack, offer something healthy right away.
  3. Once a limit has been set, parents should follow through. It’s imperative that both parents are on board with this limit and fully follow through when the whining rule has been violated.
  4. If you have an older child that’s developing a whining habit, suggest they come up with a solution to their perceived boredom or other voiced problem.  If you suggest possible alternatives, it might just prolong the child’s whining.

Sometimes whining can be the result of trauma and trouble in their life. A divorce, serious family illness or problems at school may be at the root.  Additional positive attention and quality one-on-one time may be just the medicine your child needs at a time like this. Your pediatrician can also suggest alternatives to curb whining should the positive attention and disciplinary actions be ineffective.


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child development, healthy food, Relationships

Training the Fussy Eater

Toddlers can be fussy eaters who refuse to try a new food at least half of the time. Approximately half of all toddlers fit this description, so it is no wonder that food issues are a source of stress for parents.

Establishing healthy eating patterns is important to avoid problems such as obesity and eating disorders later in life. Various strategies can help your child accept a wider range of foods.  It may be necessary to offer food to your child as many as 10 different times before they choose to eat it. The problem is, many parents get frustrated and give up before the fourth or fifth try.

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Try to make foods fun.  Colorful foods like carrot sticks, raisins, apples, grapes, cheese sticks and crackers can all be fun and healthy choices for your growing toddler.  Explain to them that eating good food is important so they’ll grow big and strong, and how it will help them run faster and play longer.

Children learn behaviors from their parents. If you restrict yourself to a narrow range of foods, your child will take notice and mimic your caution. Don’t limit your child’s food variety to only those foods you prefer. It may be that your child’s tastes are different to yours, and perhaps you are simply serving them foods they don’t happen to like.  Try to set a good example and try a variety of foods in front of your child. It could motivate them to do the same.

If your child seems healthy and energetic, then they are eating enough. If you are still concerned, keep an eye on how much food they actually eat over the day. Children tend to graze constantly, rather than restrict their eating to three meals per day like adults. You may be surprised how those little handfuls and snacks add up. For further reassurance, check your child’s growth and weight charts, or check with your child’s pediatrician.

Try not to worry, and remember, that unless a child is ill, they will eat.   Children are very good at judging their hunger and fullness signals. Try to stay relaxed about mealtime and offer your child a wide variety of foods, and most importantly, remember to set a good example by trying a wide variety of foods yourself.  You may discover you and your toddler share a new found favorite food!


 

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child development, Child's Education, Uncategorised

EFFECTIVE TIPS TO GET YOUR CHILD PRESCHOOL-READY

For more than two years, your child could have been solely under your care. She may be used to just staying at home either alone with her toys or playing with her siblings. But you must know that she cannot stay at home forever. She has to explore the world and start learning about broader possibilities. So how do you prepare your child for preschool?

Here are some of the most effective tips to let your child become physically, emotionally, and mentally ready for preschool:

          1. Talk to your child about the need for preschool

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Communication is the key to healthy relationships. Even when your child seems to be so young for serious talks, you should still make an effort to explain to her that going to preschool is necessary. Give her ideas about how exciting preschool could be. Describe to her the fun of meeting new friends, singing nursery rhymes, and playing outside.

           2. Use the preschool concept during pretend play

You surely know how children love pretend play activities. If you are running out of new ideas for your pretend play at home, then it is now the time to consider having a preschool pretend play concept. You could first act out as the teacher and your child as a student. The roles could interchange every day depending on your goals.

Set up a preschool corner at home that is equipped with a study table, chair, puzzle mat, coloring materials, and more. Make sure that your pretend play will have a similar schedule to the preschool format. There must be a designated time for singing, circle time, story-telling, snack time, and free play.

          3. Read books about school

When you go to the bookstore, you can choose the books that are about school or where the story’s setting is in the school. This can stimulate the interest in school in your child’s mind. It is also a creative way of giving her a subconscious idea about how children should behave in school.

           4. Visit the preschool.

Anything that is strange can stress out a child. You do not want your child to feel worried because of a new environment. It would be wonderful if you can frequently bring your little one to the preschool a few weeks before the actual start of the school year. Talk to the management if you can let her play for a few minutes at the yard or if you could just spend some time roaming around.

          5. Schedule playdates with other children.

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If your kid isn’t used to spending time with other children, then you have to introduce the idea of a social group to her. You could speak with other moms in your circle of friends or in your neighborhood to have a series of playdates among children. Carefully plan out the activities for your playdate so that every moment during the session can be a meaningful opportunity for learning and growth.

           6. Meet the teacher.

The teachers of your child will be her second parents while in school. Your little one must feel comfortable with her teachers and even with the other personnel of the school. Schedule a meeting with the teacher where she can speak with you and your child. During the meeting, you must be able to relay all the necessary information about your child such as her behavioral nuances and medical condition.

Going to preschool is another milestone for your child. Be sure to make the process as fun as possible. Use all your creativity and exercise your patience during this transition.


 

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child safety, health

8 Crucial First Aid Tips that Every Parent Must Know

We must know that real danger is looming most especially when we have babies and toddlers under our care. Do you have any idea how to respond when your child accidentally gets choked by a piece of candy? What shall you do when your little one’s nose suddenly bleeds?

As parents, we must know how to appropriately react to every accident or misfortune that happens to our babies. To help ensure the safety and well-being of your little child, here are some of the 8 crucial first aid tips that you must be aware of:

  1. Know how to save your baby from choking.

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The first step in saving your child from choking is by administering five (5) firm back blows between her shoulder blades. It is done by putting your baby on your arm towards the floor and then forcefully tapping her back in a repeated manner.

The second step for rescuing a choking infant is by turning her over from facing the floor towards your direction. Then you will have to perform five (5) chest thrusts. You can do this by placing two fingers in the middle of her chest and exerting effort to bring out the

  1. Immediately cool off skin burns.

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Accidental burns usually happen in the kitchen and in the dining area. It is, therefore, important to have burn ointments in your cupboard. The first thing to do when a boiling pot of soup has been poured onto your child or when a flammable substance hits your little one is to wash off the burnt area in running water for 10 minutes so as to cool off the surface. Severe burns shall require emergency medical attention.

  1. Disinfect wounds immediately.

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Wounds can be a normal part of childhood but you have to know that some wounds are prone to infection. You will have to immediately wash your child’s wound with water and soap. After that, apply an antibacterial ointment to prevent infection.

  1. Never disregard insect bites.

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Insect bites are very common among children. Despite this, you still have to be very careful about handling insect bites because they can cause large swelling and skin infection.

The first thing to do upon observing an insect bite is to apply a cold compress to the affected area. Then it would be nice if you have an insect bite ointments, an antibacterial cream or hydrocortisone ointment which you can apply on the bite.

  1. Pinch the nose in case of nosebleed.

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Nosebleeds without any known cause can be very alarming. You can pinch the soft part of your child’s nose for about 5-10 minutes until the bleeding stops. However, children with G6PD deficiency and other blood-related conditions shall be brought to the hospital immediately after a nosebleed incident.

  1. Observe your child after bumping her head.

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Infants who are learning to crawl and stand are those that usually experience head blows. Immediately get an ice pack or cold compress if this happens. Do not let your child sleep right after an accident that involves her head. It is also crucial that you observe your child for any changes in behavior, vomiting, drowsiness, or unconsciousness. Bring her to the doctor at once if you have observed any of the previous conditions.

  1. Learn CPR and first aid.

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Education and practical training are keys to making sure that you can protect your children in case of untoward incidents. It would be very wise to learn about CPR and first aid from reputable professionals.

  1. Have a first aid kit in all your rooms, in your car, and in your baby’s bag.

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Accidents are unpredictable. Every second is crucial to saving your child’s life. Be sure to have a first aid kit in every part of your room most especially in your bathroom and kitchen. Also, be sure to have the kit in your car most especially when you frequently travel with kids.


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child development, family time

Chores Can Help your Child Learn about Teamwork and a Strong Work Ethic

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Chores can help develop a sense of responsibility and self worth in your child.  It should be understood by all family members they are expected and necessary to a household running successfully and efficiently.  They can help create a sense of unity and family and is a great place for your child to learn about teamwork. Parents should take special care to handle the delegation of chores to children so they don’t become a source of frustration or create arguments.

Allow your child to have an active say in the delegation of chores.  Give them choices. We all have household chores that we don’t like to do, but if it’s a chore the child enjoys doing then there’s less likelihood it will create a battle in the end.  The child will most likely appreciate having the chance to be heard and having a choice.

It’s imperative that you set parameters early on for the successful completion of a chore.  They may not perform up to snuff when they first start performing the chore, but show them where improvement is needed and praise them for a strong effort.  Also make sure the child understands there will be repercussions if they only put forth a minimal effort. Ensure the child understands the need for the chore’s effective and efficient completion. Set consequences for substandard completion as a team.  Make sure they see that if they don’t perform their chores, it affects the other members of the team. Spouses must work together and be a strong example for their children by completing their own chores each day. And don’t allow a child to undermine your authority by battling with you over a designated chore.  Stand your ground and don’t give in, and emphasize the consequence and negative effect an uncompleted chore has on the family.

And keep an open mind when a child wants to discuss their thoughts or express their opinions about chores.  Make sure the conversation stays positive and on target.


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