You all know that I am an advocate of positive parenting. But not all parents would actually understand what positive parenting is, while some would even have a misconception about it. That’s why I have decided to dedicated a series of posts that answer some of the most important questions regarding the topic.
For this article, I would like to delve deeper into the real meaning of positive parenting. What is it really?
1.What is the simple explanation for positive parenting?
Positive parenting is basically a concept of child-rearing or the way that we bring up kids. It is an idea with the premise that our children are inherently good with the intention to act righteously. It is a method of child-rearing that builds mutual trust between parents and children, respects the unique individuality of kids, and reinforces the love and connection in the family.
2. What are the keywords in positive parenting?
- Individuality – This is basically the acknowledgment that your child is a unique human being with her own talents, skills, and capabilities.
- Goodness – It is the expectation that your child has a good heart with pure intentions and a desire to always do what is good and right.
- Communication – This is an essential part of positive parenting that emphasizes the need for connection through verbal communication and physical contact. It is the ability to be able to explain and not simply state your rules and consequences to your child. Communication is also the ability to listen to your child intently so as to understand the reasons for her actions and behavior.
- Respect – This concept shall apply to both parents and children. One of the very foundations and beautiful results of positive parenting is the establishment of mutual respect between parent and child. It can never be one directional because respect always has to be earned and never just demanded.
- Discipline – For every rule and consequence, there has to be a corresponding explanation of why they have to set and implemented. Also, the discipline has to be consistent, firm, and appropriate to your child’s age.
3. What are the challenges in positive parenting?
The main challenge in the successful implementation of a positive parenting approach is yourself. If you are serious about positive parenting, you have to be determined in various aspects such as in changing your perspective, setting aside your own personal issues, managing your expectations, and calming your emotional storms.
It is normal for all parents to experience meltdown at times most especially when their children misbehave. To be able to successfully carry out a positive parenting approach, you need to work on yourself first. Be ready to take the challenge and embrace the exciting journey.
4. What are the benefits of the positive parenting approach?
- Strong relationships between parents and children
- Healthy development of children’s mental, emotional, and social capacities
- Better behavior among children in different settings
- Children’s confidence and their ability to value their own unique individuality
- More accepting, more peaceful, and happier relationships within the family\
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