We all know that our children cannot possibly have superpowers as we understand from movies. But we can give them a special kind of power that they can use until they grow old – the power to control emotions and manage their feelings.
This kind of power may be difficult to pass on because it has to be patiently taught and gradually learned. You cannot share the concept of power in a classroom setting because it can only be learned through experience.
Here are some of the proven tips on how you can help your children gain the power of emotional control or management:
1. Explain the concept of having the power to control emotions.
Before even trying to teach your children about this positive trait, you must first understand the concept yourself. Emotional control is basically the ability of a person to manage their emotions in order to complete a certain task or achieve a particular goal. It is the powerful ability of someone to rise above whatever they are feeling at the moment in order to maintain good behavior and positive interaction among other people.
2. Become the emotional management superhero to your children.
Our children learn best by observing. Yes, and they surely observe all your actions! So if you want your kids to learn such a skill of effectively managing their emotions, you better model the behavior to them.
How do you do it? The simplest way you can show emotional control is by resisting the urge to yell even when your child has messed up the room, broken down the plates, or whatever. Please, just never yell at your child. It’s not only modeling bad behavior but it can also negatively affect their emotional and mental health.
3. Show understanding and empathy when children are losing their cool.
Kids may be gentle but they can also easily lose their cool. Isn’t that the very reason why some kids have tantrums? If your child suddenly shows symptoms of being exhausted, annoyed, or angry, be empathetic to them. Do not add heat to the boiling water by getting mad or by scolding them.
It would be good if you can speak to your child about what they are feeling. Recognize their emotions and offer relieving actions such as an embrace. By doing this, your child will have the courage to let out their emotions freely and never keep them within their heart. This will allow them to understand that what they feel is acceptable and that somebody is actually listening to them.
4. Allow your children to feel whatever she is feeling.
Some parents have the tendency to immediately come to the rescue when they see the slightest sign of sadness on their child’s face. Although it is understandable, it would be of greater help to your children’s development if you can allow your children to savor the emotions at the moment. Never stop your child from crying just because it is embarrassing to other people or you feel that it is unnecessary.
Remember that even adults have to vent out their anger and even feel their sadness for a time. What’s important is for your children to know that emotions are temporary and can be changed into something better. Let them cry for a while whilst you comfort them because that would ease the burden in their hearts and even free them from anger.
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