Knowing, Accepting, and Dealing with Your Toddler’s Temperament

Why does it matter to know your toddler’s temperament? Basically, your toddler’s temperament can affect your daily parenting journey and the future life of your little one. Your child’s temperament is her own unique character that determines the way that she interacts with her surroundings, the people around her, and the various circumstances that happen on a daily basis.

In this post, we will discuss the different ways on how we can discover our children’s temperament so that we can easily accept and deal with their unique characters.

Knowing Your Toddler’s Temperament

Some child researchers have provided three categories for determining our children’s temperament. Here are the three general categories:

1. Easy or Flexible Temperament  


These children are usually happy and calm. They can easily adapt to certain routines such as regular sleeping schedules and good eating habits.


2. Active or Fiesty Temperament


These children do not usually thrive in routines. They do not feel comfortable with people whom they’ve met for the first time. They also feel uneasy when exposed to noisy environments and react strongly to certain events.


3. Slow to Warm or Cautious Temperament


Children who exhibit this kind of temperament usually react strangely to new circumstances. They don’t seem to be welcoming of new environments and new practices. They need repeated exposure in order to normalize their interactions.

But remember!!! Not all children may perfectly fall under one category. Your child may exhibit attitudes that cross different categories, and that is definitely not a cause for concern. That only validates the reality that each child is dynamic and unique. Let these categorizations only serve as your guide when determining your parenting style and techniques.

So how will you be able to identify your child’s temperament? Consider these points:

  1. Observe how your child reacts to certain events and circumstances.
  2. Check her attention span.
  3. See her focus.
  4. Look at her mood.
  5. Evaluate her adaptability to certain routines.
  6. Check her interaction with different types of people.

Once you have gotten an idea about your toddler’s temperament, it is important to remember that you can never force her to change into moving from one temperament to another. There is definitely no hierarchy in these categorizations.

Accepting Your Toddler’s Temperament and Dealing with It

Your child’s traits are uniquely hers. Even when she seems to be entirely different from you, you just got to accept the fact that your toddler is a unique human being with a potential to use her own traits to conquer future life challenges and develop her own skills.


Despite the fact that temperament is inherently in your child’s personality, you also have to know that you can influence her behavior and reactions. If your toddler seems to be uncomfortable with new faces, you can actually make an effort of bringing her more frequently to social events like children’s parties, friends’ reunions, and even in playgroup classes. If your toddler seems to be having difficulty in following a strict sleeping schedule, then you can simply be more intentional in following schedules and consistent in using techniques for daytime naps and night sleeping.

Dealing with your child’s temperament requires respect, acceptance, and patience. The way that you interact with one child may not necessarily be the same with the methods used for her siblings. You can use different strategies to inculcate family values, cultural principles, and certain behavioral traits that you’d like your child to be influenced with.


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