In one of the previous posts, I gave you reasons why tantrums are not at all bad. By acknowledging that tantrums are perfectly normal for our young children, we could now start making proactive steps to help our kids overcome their feelings of stress, emotional insecurity, and fear.
Here are some of the proven ways to keep meltdowns at bay and effectively controlled:
1. Let your child have a positive emotional foundation
Do you know that it has been proven that consistent parent and children bonding activities such as playing together can offer positive and lasting impact on the emotional foundation of children? Even story-telling sessions can help reinforce discipline and patience which result in less emotional meltdowns among toddlers and preschool kids.
2. Do not be triggered by your child’s behavior.
No matter how much annoying, stressful, and embarrassing the situation is, do not ever be triggered by your child’s tantrums. Once you react negatively to a child’s meltdown, then you only aggravate the situation. Remember one of the most frequently offered advice to couples about the need to be composed when one is feeling bad or angry? The same goes for our kids.
3. Be able to understand where he is coming from.
Tantrums have certain triggers. Surely, one cannot behave annoyingly without any reason at all. If your child is over three years old, then it could be much easier to handle tantrums because you can effectively converse with her regarding what she wants, how she feels, and what makes her sad. But if you have a toddler who has a very limited vocabulary, then you can start training her to express herself through actions and signs. This way, you will be able to have a clue if she wants to have a certain toy, whether she is hungry or not, or if she is feeling sleepy.
4. Give him the space to vent out.
Don’t ever try to contain the stress, worry, and sadness of your child by stopping her from crying or screaming. Little children have a very limited capacity for managing their emotions. When they are frequently stopped from releasing their negative feeling, then their very mental health could be affected really badly. If they are having tantrums, give them two to three minutes to let them vent out.
5. Be creative – offer other objects of interest.
If your child still hasn’t overcome her meltdown in three minutes, then you could try diverting her attention to something of interest. If she cries over ice cream, why not point to her stack of blocks or her cute dolls? Use your environment to stimulate her interest. Even a family picture can suddenly turn things around. Talk more about her siblings or even herself. Let her pour down her mental faculties in being amazed by her surroundings.
6. Offer the physical comfort of your mommy or daddy embrace.
Our little children best understand love through physical means. There is nothing more comforting to our kids than our cuddles and hugs. Embracing your children can stimulate the release of more oxytocin or love hormones which will then allow them to feel much happier and less stressed.
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